I'm going to make my last post nice and gushy.
Mothers day is coming up soon! So this last post is on my mother.
My mother is amazing. She has been through so many struggles all on her own and persevered and succeeded in life. She came to this country as a teenager and had to support herself on her own, no parental support. Still, she recognized the importance that being educated has on your life so she began to work and go to night school to the same time. Thinking of this inspires me to continue my college career seeing as she worked so hard for her own and she worked so hard to ultimately help me with college so I wouldn't have to do what she did when she was starting college. When I was the age of 7 she became a single mom and despite the hardships she faced both emotionally and professionally she was able to make her way up to a stable job now as an IT Assistant at LaGuardia Community College and I was able to watch her as she did so, promotion after promotion. When she first started the job she is currently at, she was the only female in her office and despite the men not taking her seriously at first she proved them wrong time and time again with her awesome determination and problem solving skills. Even now she continues to work and now they also pay for her to go to school for her second masters in Digital Forensics and Cybersecurity. She has supported me my entire life and I aspire to be as successful as she's become all on her own. I love my mom for being so powerful and hope to make her proud in the future! I literally could not have asked for a better mom! Love you mom!
Monday, May 8, 2017
Facebook Engineers Gender Bias
https://www.theverge.com/2017/5/2/15517302/facebook-female-engineers-gender-bias-studies-report
Facebook is facing a gender bias scare after one of its former female engineer employees reported that less code by female engineers get passed in the peer review process that the Facebook company has set up. Scared about this being true Facebook attempted to find what the real problem was and what was reported back was that it was not gender but rather rank that got more code passed. this later caused some to theorize that maybe women weren't rising the ranks as engineers because of their gender or because women were falling behind as engineer or that women were just quitting before they could be promoted to a higher rank. This is upsetting seeing as I myself am a female engineer. A civil engineer that is, but an engineer nonetheless. I hope that i get lucky enough in my life not to have to deal with issues like this personally, but as a women in a field dominated by men such as engineering I am prepared to fight for my equality.
Harvard Business School Case Study: Gender Equity
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/08/education/harvard-case-study-gender-equity.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all&
In 2010 , Harvard Business School's first female president appointed a new dean. His goal: to tackle the issue of Gender inequality. Females in the school were struggling especially with participating in class which was a huge part of their grade. A factor that contributed to the gender inequality was the extreme economic gap in the school, the wealthy higher class was called Section X among the students. this contributed to the gender inequality because women were more prone to try to make their way into Section X by dating. Therefore causing women to put more attention into dating rather than their studies. I think that it was a good idea for the deans to put more attention into trying to fix their gender inequality problem but I think they did it in the wrong way. They involved themselves too much into the personal lives of students and then rather then fixing their inequality problem they fed it even more because the new rules they put in place were directed more for the benefit of women and it started to make the inequality negatively effect the men now.
In 2010 , Harvard Business School's first female president appointed a new dean. His goal: to tackle the issue of Gender inequality. Females in the school were struggling especially with participating in class which was a huge part of their grade. A factor that contributed to the gender inequality was the extreme economic gap in the school, the wealthy higher class was called Section X among the students. this contributed to the gender inequality because women were more prone to try to make their way into Section X by dating. Therefore causing women to put more attention into dating rather than their studies. I think that it was a good idea for the deans to put more attention into trying to fix their gender inequality problem but I think they did it in the wrong way. They involved themselves too much into the personal lives of students and then rather then fixing their inequality problem they fed it even more because the new rules they put in place were directed more for the benefit of women and it started to make the inequality negatively effect the men now.
What Real Heroes Will Most Likely Actually Look Like Under Their Costume
Know the Difference
Post pushed trauma
So.... while we were reading pushed in class I remembered how people reacted to so many things in the book. Some jumped, cringed, shrieked, chuckled, or looked disgusted. I also reacted sometimes as we discussed the book, but I felt I wasn't as affected by what was said in the book as everyone else. As if I was just a bit calmer about the event in the book than everyone else. Thought.
Then one day I get a phone call from my mom. We just start catching up, how's school, how's work, my friend did this, my coworker did that, I miss chocolate(my dog), Chocolate misses you too, and then she drops the bomb on me. "Michelle gave birth yesterday!" I was so excited and happy and I start talking about being excited to see the baby and see my cousin to congratulate her. and then my mom tells me that the day that she gave birth my uncle called her asking if Michelle should take the epidural and once she mentioned epidural, I panicked. I felt as though it was the day before and my cousin was giving birth during the phone call with my mom. I began to think about all the horrible things that we read hospitals and doctors do to speed up the birthing process. I began to regret not having thought of recommending the book to my cousin so that she could be informed that the doctors are going to indirectly pressure her into doing so many things just because it would benefit them and that way on the day that she gives birth she'd be able to recognize these moments and give birth the way she wants to. I was worried and reacting to the book all over again all at the same time while I was talking to my mom. But my mom told me that the advice that she gave her was that if she couldn't handle the pain to take the epidural which is completely valid I just hoped that they didn't give her Pitocin or anything else which might've caused her to ask for an epidural. Luckily the baby came out nice and healthy and my cousin gave birth with out the epidural and she was also doing well. But boy was I scared for a second there.
Then one day I get a phone call from my mom. We just start catching up, how's school, how's work, my friend did this, my coworker did that, I miss chocolate(my dog), Chocolate misses you too, and then she drops the bomb on me. "Michelle gave birth yesterday!" I was so excited and happy and I start talking about being excited to see the baby and see my cousin to congratulate her. and then my mom tells me that the day that she gave birth my uncle called her asking if Michelle should take the epidural and once she mentioned epidural, I panicked. I felt as though it was the day before and my cousin was giving birth during the phone call with my mom. I began to think about all the horrible things that we read hospitals and doctors do to speed up the birthing process. I began to regret not having thought of recommending the book to my cousin so that she could be informed that the doctors are going to indirectly pressure her into doing so many things just because it would benefit them and that way on the day that she gives birth she'd be able to recognize these moments and give birth the way she wants to. I was worried and reacting to the book all over again all at the same time while I was talking to my mom. But my mom told me that the advice that she gave her was that if she couldn't handle the pain to take the epidural which is completely valid I just hoped that they didn't give her Pitocin or anything else which might've caused her to ask for an epidural. Luckily the baby came out nice and healthy and my cousin gave birth with out the epidural and she was also doing well. But boy was I scared for a second there.
Don't Talk Crap About Her Vagina: Part II
Previously:
It was outrageous....
It was outrageous....
The moment I heard about the way a guy talked about my friend's Vagina I lost all respect for the guy.
A while back my friend made the decision to engage in sexual intercourse with this particular guy, a first timer. After a while they finally became a couple. I was but a side character but I knew he had dark humor and had a tendency of spouting offensive statements. I learned from one of his former roommates who was a witness to the offense about something completely unacceptable that the current boyfriend said. The boyfriend had a pile in the corner of his room in which he threw just about anything in. One day he walked in to his room, everyone that lived in the dorm was present, walks to pile, smells it and blurts out loud, "Ew! This pile smells almost as bad as (Current girlfriends name) Vagina!" and just walks away. When the boyfriend's former roommate told me this happened, my jaw dropped.
Part II:
Not only was the boyfriends actions despicable, but a reaction I witnessed after hearing the story had me baffled.
When my friends male best friend heard about this, his first reaction is not outrage from the boyfriend saying something that was clearly meant to be offensive toward her vagina, but rather he said, "I could see that, she's been around." and I was even more disgusted. OK, true, a women's vagina might begin to change smells the more she has sexual intercourse because of the change in PH levels down there, but I knew that what her best friend meant by that was that because she had had sex with so many people, he thought that that made her dirty. And not the sexy talk dirty, but dirty as in nasty and disgusting and he was obviously judging her about that. he said this thinking it was a given that that is what having so much sex means and he thinks about things in old fashion ways because of the way he was raised and because he was never really exposed much to feminist views. But for a women, having sex is just as natural as men having sex, and yet when men have sex, they are praised for it for the most part and women get the negative judgement. And just like men don't like being judged for having a lot of sex by being called "fuck boys" or anything similar, women don't like it either especially not from their best friend. Having a lot of sex is not a bad thing. Women have the same right for this desire as men do and it can only negatively effect them if people find out and begin to judge them or if the sex is not allowing them to progress in life. I ultimately explained myself to her best friend and he saw the error of his ways and hes a better person now because of it. But this is something that everyone should be informed about so many issues can be avoided if people knew about this.
Part II:
Not only was the boyfriends actions despicable, but a reaction I witnessed after hearing the story had me baffled.
When my friends male best friend heard about this, his first reaction is not outrage from the boyfriend saying something that was clearly meant to be offensive toward her vagina, but rather he said, "I could see that, she's been around." and I was even more disgusted. OK, true, a women's vagina might begin to change smells the more she has sexual intercourse because of the change in PH levels down there, but I knew that what her best friend meant by that was that because she had had sex with so many people, he thought that that made her dirty. And not the sexy talk dirty, but dirty as in nasty and disgusting and he was obviously judging her about that. he said this thinking it was a given that that is what having so much sex means and he thinks about things in old fashion ways because of the way he was raised and because he was never really exposed much to feminist views. But for a women, having sex is just as natural as men having sex, and yet when men have sex, they are praised for it for the most part and women get the negative judgement. And just like men don't like being judged for having a lot of sex by being called "fuck boys" or anything similar, women don't like it either especially not from their best friend. Having a lot of sex is not a bad thing. Women have the same right for this desire as men do and it can only negatively effect them if people find out and begin to judge them or if the sex is not allowing them to progress in life. I ultimately explained myself to her best friend and he saw the error of his ways and hes a better person now because of it. But this is something that everyone should be informed about so many issues can be avoided if people knew about this.
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