The moment I heard about the way a guy talked about my friend's Vagina I lost all respect for the guy.
A while back my friend made the decision to engage in sexual intercourse with this particular guy, a first timer. As time passed they continued to be friends and got closer and closer as friends until they finally became a couple. I was but a side character in the entire matter, mostly only friends with the girl in the relationship and I had very few interactions with the boyfriend. But from the few interactions I had with him, he had dark humor and had a tendency of spouting offensive statements. But then I learned from one of his former roommates who was a witness to the offense about something completely unacceptable that happened sometime after their first time having sex and before their becoming a couple. The boyfriend is not such a sanitary guy, so at a certain point he had a pile in the corner of his room in which he threw just about anything in, from trash to clothes to random objects. What happened was that one day he walked in to his room, everyone that lived in the dorm was present, he walks to the pile, smells it and blurts out loud for his entire suite to hear (not in a joking manner), "Ew! This pile smells almost as bad as (Current girlfriends name) Vagina!" and just walks away. When the boyfriend's former roommate told me this happened, my jaw dropped. I was outraged by what my friend's boyfriend once said about her.
Even if they were not dating just yet, and he is naturally offensive its ridiculous that he even thought it was OK to say something like that about her vagina and especially in front of other people. That's her vagina, that is a natural part of her that she does not have to change unless she desires to, and vaginas are not meant to look or smell pretty or meant to change to be pretty just because of a man. Yes it is OK for people other than the owner of a vagina to talk about their vagina with the consent of the owner and it is OK for everyone to talk about vaginas in general, but it is only OK if the vagina is spoken about with maturity and respect. And another thing. This was his first time having sex, so this statement he blurted out to his roommates, who would most likely take this for granted as they have no other source, might not even of been true at all. This was the first time he took part in any form of sexual activity, so for all he could know, her vagina could smell like all other "normal" smelling vaginas. And even if her vagina smelled like the most disgusting thing in the world, he had no right to announce this to the rest of his roommates. Just like men don't like it when women talk crap about a man's penis, like its size, women don't like it when men talk crap about their vagina. Most women are already insecure about their body with clothes on, there shouldn't also be a reason for women to be insecure about a body part, which has more than just a sexual purpose for a women. For men it is only serves a sexual purpose for them, therefore if they're not educated about a women's body parts, not given consent to talk about it, or just not willing to be mature and respectful about it then they should not be talking about another women's vagina.
Even if they were not dating just yet, and he is naturally offensive its ridiculous that he even thought it was OK to say something like that about her vagina and especially in front of other people. That's her vagina, that is a natural part of her that she does not have to change unless she desires to, and vaginas are not meant to look or smell pretty or meant to change to be pretty just because of a man. Yes it is OK for people other than the owner of a vagina to talk about their vagina with the consent of the owner and it is OK for everyone to talk about vaginas in general, but it is only OK if the vagina is spoken about with maturity and respect. And another thing. This was his first time having sex, so this statement he blurted out to his roommates, who would most likely take this for granted as they have no other source, might not even of been true at all. This was the first time he took part in any form of sexual activity, so for all he could know, her vagina could smell like all other "normal" smelling vaginas. And even if her vagina smelled like the most disgusting thing in the world, he had no right to announce this to the rest of his roommates. Just like men don't like it when women talk crap about a man's penis, like its size, women don't like it when men talk crap about their vagina. Most women are already insecure about their body with clothes on, there shouldn't also be a reason for women to be insecure about a body part, which has more than just a sexual purpose for a women. For men it is only serves a sexual purpose for them, therefore if they're not educated about a women's body parts, not given consent to talk about it, or just not willing to be mature and respectful about it then they should not be talking about another women's vagina.
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