It was outrageous....
The moment I heard about the way a guy talked about my friend's Vagina I lost all respect for the guy.
A while back my friend made the decision to engage in sexual intercourse with this particular guy, a first timer. After a while they finally became a couple. I was but a side character but I knew he had dark humor and had a tendency of spouting offensive statements. I learned from one of his former roommates who was a witness to the offense about something completely unacceptable that the current boyfriend said. The boyfriend had a pile in the corner of his room in which he threw just about anything in. One day he walked in to his room, everyone that lived in the dorm was present, walks to pile, smells it and blurts out loud, "Ew! This pile smells almost as bad as (Current girlfriends name) Vagina!" and just walks away. When the boyfriend's former roommate told me this happened, my jaw dropped.
Part II:
Not only was the boyfriends actions despicable, but a reaction I witnessed after hearing the story had me baffled.
When my friends male best friend heard about this, his first reaction is not outrage from the boyfriend saying something that was clearly meant to be offensive toward her vagina, but rather he said, "I could see that, she's been around." and I was even more disgusted. OK, true, a women's vagina might begin to change smells the more she has sexual intercourse because of the change in PH levels down there, but I knew that what her best friend meant by that was that because she had had sex with so many people, he thought that that made her dirty. And not the sexy talk dirty, but dirty as in nasty and disgusting and he was obviously judging her about that. he said this thinking it was a given that that is what having so much sex means and he thinks about things in old fashion ways because of the way he was raised and because he was never really exposed much to feminist views. But for a women, having sex is just as natural as men having sex, and yet when men have sex, they are praised for it for the most part and women get the negative judgement. And just like men don't like being judged for having a lot of sex by being called "fuck boys" or anything similar, women don't like it either especially not from their best friend. Having a lot of sex is not a bad thing. Women have the same right for this desire as men do and it can only negatively effect them if people find out and begin to judge them or if the sex is not allowing them to progress in life. I ultimately explained myself to her best friend and he saw the error of his ways and hes a better person now because of it. But this is something that everyone should be informed about so many issues can be avoided if people knew about this.
Part II:
Not only was the boyfriends actions despicable, but a reaction I witnessed after hearing the story had me baffled.
When my friends male best friend heard about this, his first reaction is not outrage from the boyfriend saying something that was clearly meant to be offensive toward her vagina, but rather he said, "I could see that, she's been around." and I was even more disgusted. OK, true, a women's vagina might begin to change smells the more she has sexual intercourse because of the change in PH levels down there, but I knew that what her best friend meant by that was that because she had had sex with so many people, he thought that that made her dirty. And not the sexy talk dirty, but dirty as in nasty and disgusting and he was obviously judging her about that. he said this thinking it was a given that that is what having so much sex means and he thinks about things in old fashion ways because of the way he was raised and because he was never really exposed much to feminist views. But for a women, having sex is just as natural as men having sex, and yet when men have sex, they are praised for it for the most part and women get the negative judgement. And just like men don't like being judged for having a lot of sex by being called "fuck boys" or anything similar, women don't like it either especially not from their best friend. Having a lot of sex is not a bad thing. Women have the same right for this desire as men do and it can only negatively effect them if people find out and begin to judge them or if the sex is not allowing them to progress in life. I ultimately explained myself to her best friend and he saw the error of his ways and hes a better person now because of it. But this is something that everyone should be informed about so many issues can be avoided if people knew about this.
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